Who Are You Underneath the Pressure? A Leader’s Guide to Stop Striving & Start Being

This morning, I woke up like I often do – caught in a whirlwind of thoughts and anxieties. We all face this, especially as leaders. The pressure to have answers, to define ourselves by accomplishments… it’s easy to lose our footing. But in these moments, I’m learning something profound (inspired by the spiritual teacher Luuk Moelker’s From Confusion to Clarity) – the very essence of our leadership lies in recognizing what confusion truly is.

Moelker teaches that our mental chaos is just that – mental. It’s a storm in the mind. For me, the revelation came when I finally paused and asked myself, “Who am I, truly, beneath all this?” Suddenly, the noise fell away. A core of undeniable selfhood was there all along, needing no external justification.

This is a truth every leader needs to know – confusion happens, but it is not you. Underneath the responsibilities and expectations, there’s that same causeless, vibrant ‘I am’ within each of us.

Finding that clarity isn’t about guru retreats or complex psych-techniques. It’s accessible here, now. Trust in your own direct experience. Sidestep the endless self-improvement, the pressure to ‘become’. You already are. Causeless. Needing no justification. That is what enables true leadership.

How do we put this into practice? Let the anxieties and fears do their thing. Notice them, but stay rooted in the peace of your inner being. It’s like watching storm clouds pass while knowing the blue sky remains untouched.

Remember, clarity is your baseline, not something earned. No need to protect or ‘prove’ your simple existence. This frees you from the exhausting cycle of self-definition, the subtle pressure to always be ‘on’.

When you crave a sense of completion or a more ‘authentic’ leadership style, stop. Say to yourself, with conviction, “I already am.”. Let this anchor you. Then face the day’s challenges not as battles against yourself, but as a chance to act from that causeless, clear place.

Much like Moelker’s work, my experience is simply a guidepost. It’s about inviting you to know this truth for yourself. Leaders, it’s time to cut through the chaos and embrace who we were meant to be. The ripple effects aren’t just personal – they extend to how we lead and show up for others.

Maybe create your own short mantra, inspired by Moelker. Mine is: “I return to the causeless Self.” It’s my compass when life gets turbulent.

This isn’t about ignoring problems, but understanding how we relate to them. True clarity means seeing we are not our thoughts or accomplishments. That shift has revolutionary potential for how we lead. Shouldn’t we be modeling wholeness, not constant striving?

Thank you, Luuk Moelker, for the reminder contained within From Confusion to Clarity.