How to Stop Feeling Empty Inside and Start Loving Yourself

Have you ever found yourself constantly searching for something to fill an empty hole in your heart or chest? Do you turn to exercise, new purchases, or even relationships to try and find happiness, only to be left feeling empty again? If so, it’s time to stop running away from your unresolved issues and learn to love yourself. In this blog post, inspired by a recent podcast, we’ll explore the importance of self-love and how to cultivate it in your life.

Understanding True Self-Love

True self-love means accepting and embracing everything you feel and experience inside. Using external things to escape from your own experience is a temporary fix that will never provide lasting happiness. Emotions like sadness and emptiness may be uncomfortable, but the more you resist them, the more they will clamor for your attention.

Learning to love yourself means turning towards those difficult emotions, just as you would comfort a small child who feels upset. While exercise is important for physical health, it cannot provide total well-being. That sense of emptiness or sadness within your heart or chest cannot be filled by external things.

The Journey Within

It’s time to shift your focus from chasing happiness on the outside to filling the hole in your heart from within. This requires identifying and resolving difficult emotions you may have been pushing away for years and changing negative beliefs into positive ones. Here are a few steps to help you on your journey:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings: Recognize and validate your emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they may be. Remember, it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or empty.
  2. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend who is struggling.
  3. Challenge negative self-talk: Identify and reframe negative beliefs about yourself with positive affirmations and self-encouragement.
  4. Cultivate gratitude: Focus on the things you appreciate about yourself and your life. This can help shift your perspective and create a more positive mindset.
  5. Set boundaries: Learn to say no to people and situations that drain your energy or undermine your self-love.
  6. Seek professional help: If you’re struggling to navigate your emotions and find self-love, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor.


Don’t be like the rich and famous who seem to have everything but are unhappy. Stop sabotaging your own happiness by turning to external things to fill a void that only self-love can truly address. Embracing self-love is a journey that takes time and effort, but the rewards are immeasurable. As you learn to accept and love yourself unconditionally, you’ll find that the hole in your heart begins to fill, and lasting happiness becomes attainable. So, take the first step today and start nurturing the most important relationship of all – the one with yourself.

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