How to Avoid Toxic People and Attract Positive People Into Your Life

As a leader, it’s crucial to surround yourself with the right people. You may think that you’re strong enough to avoid adopting the worst of others, but the truth is that we unconsciously become what we’re near. If you’re surrounded by negativity, sooner or later, you’ll become negative too. That’s why few things are more important in life than avoiding the wrong people.

The Impact of Our Surroundings

One of the most significant factors that impact our behavior is the people we spend time with. Whether it’s your colleagues, employees, friends, or family members, the people around us have a profound influence on our lives. Their attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors can rub off on us, whether we realize it or not.

For example, if you work for a toxic boss, you may start to develop toxic behaviors yourself. You may become short-tempered, irritable, and critical of others. Similarly, if you hang around with people who are lazy and unmotivated, you may start to adopt their negative attitude towards work and life.

It’s not just negative behaviors that we pick up from others; we can also learn positive behaviors too. When you’re surrounded by people who are ambitious, hard-working, and positive, you’ll likely pick up those traits too. You’ll be inspired to work harder, take risks, and push yourself to be the best version of yourself.

How to Avoid the Wrong People and Surround Yourself with the Right Ones

  1. Identify the wrong people: The first step is to identify the people who have a negative impact on your life. This may include colleagues, friends, or even family members.
  2. Minimize your exposure: Once you’ve identified the wrong people, try to minimize your exposure to them. This may mean avoiding them altogether or limiting your interactions with them.
  3. Surround yourself with the right people: Instead, focus on spending time with people who have a positive influence on your life. Seek out colleagues, friends, and mentors who inspire you and bring out the best in you.
  4. Be selective: When hiring employees or choosing business partners, be selective. Look for people who share your values and have a positive attitude towards work and life.


In conclusion, as a leader, it’s crucial to surround yourself with the right people. The people around us have a profound influence on our lives, and it’s up to us to choose who we spend our time with. Avoid the wrong people and surround yourself with positive, ambitious, and inspiring individuals. Remember, the changes are too gradual to notice until they’re too large to address, so choose wisely.

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